Ever feel like your marriage is stuck in a loop of “How was your day?” and “What’s for dinner?” Deep conversations might just be the secret ingredient you need to spice things up and strengthen your connection. If you’ve suddenly got sweaty pits on a winter’s day at the thought of having a deep conversation with your spouse, don’t stress. Here’s how you can make it easier:
Start Small
You don’t need to dive into the deepest, darkest corners of your soul right away. Start with simple, open-ended questions to ease into it. Try something like, “What’s a dream you have for our future?” This can lead to more profound discussions without feeling overwhelming.
If your partner’s conversation style is as deep as a puddle then go slow, don’t expect too much too soon.
Use the Right Tools
My brand new guide Connecting Questions: 100 Questions to Deepen Your Conversations & Connection is your best friend here. It’s packed with prompts designed to spark insightful and engaging conversations. Questions like, “What is a defining moment in your life that shaped who you are today?” can open new dimensions of your relationship.
Create a Safe Space
Ensure both of you feel comfortable and free from judgment. This means listening without interrupting and validating each other’s feelings. A safe space encourages openness and honesty, making deep conversations more productive and less intimidating.
Keeping it relaxed and informal helps remove the pressure, especially if your spouse isn’t keen to go deep. Try using the Connecting Questions guide on a date night, a chilled couch session or post sex.
Make it a Habit
Deep conversations shouldn’t be a one-time thing. Regularly setting aside time for these talks can help maintain and strengthen your connection. Whether it’s during a weekly date night or a quiet evening at home, make it a habit to explore new topics together.
Making it a habit is important but it also means it’s important to get it right the first time, so you set your relationship up to have future successful conversations. Which is why, asking the right questions is important and Connecting Questions can help.
Deep conversations can transform your marriage, bringing you closer and strengthening your bond. Grab your copy of Connecting Questions: 100 Questions to Deepen Your Conversations & Connection today and start exploring new dimensions of your relationship.
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