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Navigating Triggers

Ever find yourself in the eye of the storm when your partner gets triggered? It's like walking through a minefield, right? The truth is, your response can either be a life raft or a cannonball in those tumultuous waters.

Triggers are like little emotional landmines, lurking beneath the surface, waiting to detonate at the slightest provocation. Whether it's past traumas, unhealed wounds, or just a particularly bad hair day, triggers can turn a peaceful evening into a battleground faster than you can say, "Honey, we need to talk."

When your partner's triggered, they're like a ticking time bomb, desperate for understanding and empathy. Now it’s your move, Captain Compassion!

You’ve got to recognise that in the depths of those trigger-induced storms lie opportunities for growth and connection.

When faced with a triggered partner, first and foremost, approach with care and compassion. Take a step back, breathe deeply to calm your own emotional state, and remember: Empathy is your friend.

1. Create a safe space for your spouse to vent without judgment. Don’t retreat into your shell like a startled turtle, instead, actively listen with genuine empathy.

2. Validate your spouse’s pain. Acknowledge their feelings without downplaying them. Let them know that their feelings are valid, their experiences matter, and you're there to hold their hand (metaphorically speaking, but perhaps literally too (if that’s what your partner needs)!

Validation is the superhero cape in diffusing trigger bombs.

3. Offer reassurance and security. Remind your spouse you're in this together, like Bonnie and Clyde without the felonies. Reassure them that you've got their back and you're both on a mission to conquer those triggers.

At a later time, encourage them to seek help if needed, because let's face it, we all need a little professional guidance from time to time.

Now, here's the twist: Don't forget about yourself. It's not just about being the hero for your partner; it's about mastering your own triggers too. Because two trigger-happy partners ain't a rom-com anyone wants to star in!

Apply these techniques and be a key player in your spouse’s journey towards healing.

Remember, together, you’re unstoppable.

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