Resentment can be a silent killer in any marriage. I reckon it's the most common issue facing couples whom I counsel.
It often begins innocently enough, with a small disagreement or a misunderstanding left unaddressed. Instead of voicing your concerns, you swallow your feelings, plaster on a smile, and pretend everything is okay. But beneath the surface, emotions simmer and fester, gradually morphing into resentment.
This resentment acts like a poison, seeping into every interaction and poisoning the well of love and trust that once sustained the relationship. It builds walls between partners, creating a chasm of misunderstanding and hurt that only widens over time. What starts as a minor annoyance can escalate into a full-blown crisis if left unchecked.
The problem with resentment is that it's insidious. It creeps into the cracks of our relationships, eroding the foundation from within. You may not even realise the extent of your resentment until it's too late, until the damage has been done and the bond between you and your spouse feels irreparably strained.
But it doesn't have to be this way. Recognising and addressing resentment is the first step towards healing. It requires courage and vulnerability to confront your feelings and have those difficult conversations with your partner. It means letting go of your pride and ego, and instead choosing empathy and understanding.
Your marriage is worth fighting for, and with the right tools and support, you can overcome resentment and rebuild a stronger, healthier relationship.
Reach out if you need support.
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